We shouldn’t judge anyone, but we all do in some capacity. It’s human nature. I try not to judge, but I’m a very flawed human being; I will be the first one to admit that. Truly, everyone in the paranormal community is a bit judgy, we just don’t want to admit it. Others are a bit more subtle…but we see you.

It’s okay, we’re all human. It happens. Sometimes people just need to vent, while others may be planning elaborate schemes to “takedown” another person. I also hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if someone is gossiping and trash-talking to you about someone else, it’s only a matter of time before they do it to you.

Now that you’re totally paranoid and side-eying your friends, here’s a list of things that we all judge paranormal investigators for doing. Some of these things are just natural things to do and we need to stop judging people for doing. Other items on this list are problematic and toxic traits that just need to stop.

Boycotting investigators for petty reasons

This one is warranted if the investigator being boycotted was caught stealing, harming others, etc. But if an investigator is being boycotted for what they wear, their orientation, sobriety, their religion, their gender, their day job, etc., that’s petty. If you’re leading a boycott movement based on how an investigator looks or dresses, guess what? You’re being judged.

Allowing religious bias to taint perspectives

While the majority of the paranormal community seems to follow one mainstream religion (Christianity), not everyone aligns with that faith. There are thousands of other people who are pagan or follow another line of faith. When you have someone putting a Christian spin on everything in the field (like demons), there may be some judging happening, especially when the person they are communicating with doesn’t follow that faith.

Paraunity

I confess I judge people who are diehard for paraunity. Mainly because, well, I don’t believe in it. Do I support the idea behind paraunity? Definitely. Who isn’t on board with treating people with respect? In my personal experience, the ones who are shouting “paraunity” the loudest are the biggest offenders who cause the most division. Some of us are lone wolves and don’t want to work with other people. With the amount of backstabbing that happens in this field, some folks are really cautious about who they work with. Yet, these are the people who get the brunt of the paraunity hate.

Looping other people into their drama

This one drives me mad. I have enough of my own problems to deal with on a daily basis, I don’t need anyone else’s. Since about 2019, people have tried to loop me into their drama and asking me to be a bulldog for them. Here’s the deal, after all my years of toxic friendships where I was willing to be the bulldog, it only made me look bad in the end. Unless there’s clear black and white evidence that someone is being wronged, keep in mind that you’re only hearing one side of the story. Be careful about getting involved in other people’s drama.

Getting mad when the ghosts won’t speak to them

Oh, this one is my favorite. Just because you pay $100 to investigate a location, it doesn’t mean that the place isn’t haunted. If a ghost doesn’t want to talk to you, and they want to talk to your team member instead, that’s okay. This isn’t the zoo when someone who (willingly) paid money to go to a location expects the trained animals to perform. Hello, welcome to the paranormal field where you pay hundreds of dollars to sit in silence for eight hours. Spirits are not circus animals.

Completely dependent on equipment

Don’t get me wrong, paranormal equipment is great…ish. But it’s not going to prove the existence of ghosts anytime soon. I see people burning bridges and destroying friendships because they believe in a piece of tech SO MUCH that their entire paranormal career depends on it. Becoming too dependent on equipment can be harmful to any paranormal investigator. Actually, being hooked into just one area of the paranormal isn’t good, especially if you’re someone who wants to spread their wings and fly in this field.

Asking the same question over and over again

I didn’t think this was a real issue until I saw it firsthand several years ago. It’s one thing to repeat a question for further validation, but I don’t think it’s necessary to ask a spirit the same question a dozen times. Especially if it’s, “Uncross the rods if there’s a heaven”, “Cross the rods if there’s a heaven”, “Stand on your head if there’s a heaven.” Okay, I made up that last one. But think about it, wouldn’t you get annoyed if you were being asked the same question over and over again while doing multiple tricks? And we wonder why the spirits eventually stop responding?

Provoking

Yep. I will judge you for provoking, especially if you know better. Enough said. If you didn’t know provoking was wrong until this moment, now you know. Go and do better and be an amazing paranormal investigator with empathy!

Only following one person’s journey

There are so many facets to the paranormal community. There are also some brilliant people in the paranormal community who all come from different experiences and walks of life. That being said, you shouldn’t be depending on one person to feed you all of your entertainment and education. We all have our own personal bias when it comes to “ghost theory”, and it’s good to branch out. Then, you can take what you’ve learned from all of these people and figure out what works for you.

Worshipping paranormal celebrities

Going off of my previous comment, the same goes for paranormal celebrities. The talent you see on TV is just as human as the rest of us. Just because they are on television and have a massive following doesn’t mean that they are better than you. They may have more experience, but they are still learning about the field. Also, be gentle to the TV talent. They are people too.

Refusing to learn more

Oh, this one drives me nuts. There are paranormal investigators who are so set in their ways that they won’t even entertain the idea of learning about other theories, stories, research, the list goes on. If there is anything that you need to take away from this blog, it’s never stop learning. Once you become stagnant in your knowledge and practices, the paranormal field will be even more difficult to navigate. Keep pushing forward!

What silly thing do you judge other paranormal investigators for doing?